Hey!

I’m Tiff

You have so many gifts,
strengths, & talents to share
with the world and my job
is to help you fully align to them so you can get them out there!

*originally published via my newsletter on July 26, 2020

Hey Friends!

I hope this message finds you well. It’s been awhile since I’ve sent one of these newsletters & so firstly, to those who’ve been around awhile, thank you for being here! And for those who are new, welcome! I’m Tiff and I look forward to getting to know you!

As I’m sitting watching the sunrise this morning, I wanted to take a moment to share what I’ve been processing & understanding over the last months as I’ve taken time to go deeper within & tune into what’s taking place not just physically, emotionally, socially, & politically in the world but also spiritually.

When COVID hit months ago, I was just getting started with cohort 4 of my program & so zoomed in all the more on serving my mamas during such a challenging time. And they did incredible BTW!!! WOOT! Go cohort 4 

Then I spent the rest of my time in solitude, deeply reflecting and processing the intensity of what I was feeling, seeing, & sensing was coming. 

The first two weeks, I definitely was all in my feelings & ate lots of nutella & pretzels + binge watched Love is Blind, ha! But after those two weeks, something just kept calling me to rest, process, rest, & process. So that’s what I’ve been doing. 

I again went off social & off this newsletter for months, which honestly with running a biz can be so challenging! It can sometimes make me feel like I’m not doing the work I’m called to do.

But it was clear early on to me that if I truly wanted to serve my fellow wild mamas in a more long term, sustainable way, I would really need to humble myself to step back, again, & take this time to build a stronger foundation in my life & business so that I could do that. I didn’t see how a global pandemic would just be over and done in 3 months, as was promised, so I had to trust that me spending the last months doing deeper foundational work that helped me serve, even during a global pandemic, would set me up to be of better use to this community & have the level of impact I really want to have. 

It forced me to be really honest about what I wanted and actually invest the time to figure out how to make it happen vs. giving into limiting beliefs about what I think I know or can & cannot do.

So after months of processing, digging deep, & building my foundation, I wanted to come into your inbox today to share three main things:

1. How I’m understanding this time (from a spiritual perspective mostly)
    

2. What I’m doing & have been doing to take care of myself in this time in case it’s helpful
    

3. What I’m committed to for all of you moving forward & what you can expect from me & Wild Mama

I hope you find value in my perspective & insight.

How I’m understanding this moment

So I just want to preface that this is my own perspective and I don’t believe it’s right or wrong. One shift I’m proactively trying to make in my life is moving from right vs. wrong to informed & aligned. So this spiritual perspective I have to offer is informed by my own meditation practice & personal connection to my ancestors, guides, & deep knowing and all of what I’ll share is deeply aligned to me & the energy of my soul. 

It motivates me, gives me purpose, & helps me understand myself and my unique offering in this world in my lifetime. But it’s okay if it doesn’t resonate with you. But if it does, that’s awesome!

Alright, so last year while I was camping under the full moon, I was woken up by the light of the moon in my tent around 3am. So I sat up to meditate. I was given a lot of visions & messages but one question posed to me was,

“Tiff, how would you live your life differently if you knew you had 75 more years to live?”

For me, this question was significant because my mother died at 53 and her mother at 39. I do have women in my family who’ve lived longer but since I was raised by my mom, my connection to her and her matrilineal line has often brought intense fear to me in my life. Fear that my life would be cut short and I wouldn’t have the opportunity to reach my fullest potential in this life. This has been with me for a long time. 

At just 19 (when I was around 11), my sister was in a car accident that left her with TBI and paralyzed & dependent on others for 24/7 care. So I was plagued early on by fear that something tragic was meant to happen to me too.

But this question helped me shift my perspective. It helped me look longterm.

Some folks say life is short and I can see that. But 75 more years of a life well lived is a long time. It feels like an opportunity and made me really think about what I would do if I knew I had that much more time.

How would I show up everyday?
How would I live my life differently?
How would the choices I make today impact what's possible for me 60 or 70 years from now?
What kind of legacy would I want to leave?

I was then told that for the last 7 generations, we have lived in and been plagued by a deep darkness caused by the reckless fury of a beast (snake in my vision) and many of us have lived the last 7 generations in the belly of the beast.

But now, it’s time to understand that even if it seems that the beast is still very much alive, that due to the sacrifice and work of many of our ancestors over the last 7 generations, the beast is actually dead now, although it’s poison can still be felt & cause harm. 

I was shown our people walking out of the belly of the beast, literally walking out of it’s mouth into the light. And it became clear what my role would be in this next phase of our lives & existence.

I’m a visionary and I can often see hope where others don’t. So I was told that my role is to not only have a grand vision for what the world can look like but to have the audacity to put my actions toward building it, each day, knowing it's possible. 

This is a transitional generation and we have the great honor, privilege, and responsibility to set a new foundation. A new pathway forward to create radical possibility for the next 7 generations. 

Our work today will make it possible for the next 7 generations to live in light & joy. Darkness of course always exists, but it’s not the kind of darkness caused by the disease of white supremacy. But instead the darkness that makes death & rebirth possible for the greater good of all.

So this is a time of re-balancing & reckoning. In a vision I had, I saw grandmother earth awaken from her sleep to sit up and literally tilt the earth back into balance. And for those of us who are not deeply rooted in rich, nutrient dense soil, we would be really shaken or completely uprooted & washed away by it.

So what I’m taking from this is the harm caused by the beast that I was shown in my vision last year is physically manifesting right now in a new way. It’s not pretty. 

But I see this generation as one of resetting & envisioning, preparing to rebuild with a new vision. There's an extreme opening and opportunity right now. But we must turn our backs on the beast, reclaim our time & energy to look toward OUR bright future that WE must dictate & create, one aligned no longer the the vision, values, & center of White Supremacy but one aligned to our own vision, values, & whole selves rooted in deep love, intuition, knowing, & ancestral intelligence.

Which makes it vital for all of us to be well & take care of each other. To know our strengths & our unique roles in this becoming. It’s not going to be easy to break from the dark normal that we’re used to. But if we can, together, a new world truly is possible and I believe that with every fabric of my being.

What I’m doing & have been doing to take care of myself

So with that in mind and my vision to live til’ 109, lol, I knew I needed to take care of myself. It was clear that this wasn’t just a 3 month fight. I had to shift from just “trying to make it through the next 3 months & survive to truly thinking about how to thrive in this new reality.

I wanted to emerge from this time renewed, well rested, & my best self. Not burnt out, exhausted, & barely alive. We can't afford us to all be tired and exhausted right now!

So it’s not necessarily been easy but 3 things that have really helped me stay rooted & focused so I could stay my path vs. get caught up or feel pressured by all the noise and chaos are:
 

1. Finding and honoring MY pace and rhythms. How do I want to move? What do I need? What can I do? What can’t I do?
    

2. Staying aligned to the energy of my soul & tuning deeply into what my heart wants & needs. In times of lots of chaos & external pressure, it’s easy to be pulled by everything beckoning me. But I kept coming back to the question posed by Clarissa Pinkola Estes from the Women Who Run With the Wolves “what’s beckoning me vs. calling from my soul”. I had to check in with myself often. Is this from my soul? Or is it beckoning me? I really had to be present to how my ego showed up during this time.
    

3. Living for MY legacy and staying hyper focused on the bigger picture for my life...letting my vision of the next 75 years determine how I’m going to show up today. Given my greater vision & how I’m understanding this time, and knowing deeply that my role is in the rebuilding, I knew I needed to prioritize getting ready for the marathon and not just be responsive in the immediate. Living for my legacy vs. just the moment helped me keep perspective, aligned to me, & find a healthy balance for me so I could live authentically. It allowed me to prioritize my health, mental & spiritual health, & LIVE SLOW so I could live long.
    

And here are my top 3 habits I've prioritized during this time that have helped me do the above:

• Turn my phone off for 4+ hours at a time, everyday

• Journal daily every morning

• Take daily naps, usually 10-20mins

What I’m committed to for YOU! + What to expect

Which then brings me to my commitment to YOU! 

I’m not sure I’ve been able to adequately express yet just how deeply motivated and committed I am to serving mothers world wide. But over the last months, I’ve dug really deep to get clear on my why. I’ve spent the last year serving mamas, mostly through my program, and in those 4 cohorts I’ve learned a lot and also collected so much data to help me understand the deep struggles, needs, & desires of mamas.

The inner world of mamas is so complex, unique, & beautiful! And in order to be able to show up with conviction, even in the midst of a global pandemic, I really needed to get more clear & connected. I don’t want to be inconsistent in my service and impact. I want to have a strong, thoughtful, intentional, values aligned business that allows me to be present when you all most need but also gives me space to breathe, rest, & restore.

So through tons and tons of deep work over months, I’ve gotten clear on what I’m here to do for all of you through Wild Mama.

~I'm here to give you the practical tools & proven strategies to heal, be whole, & live aligned to the energy of your soul.~

I am here to build you up and help you attune to your instinctual wild & knowing.

And to empower this generation of mothers to fully embody that our greatest value in this world is not in our death & constant sacrifice but in our LIFE.

We build nations and yet we’ve been pushed to the bottom, forced into silence & isolation. Especially Black mothers.
 

So I’m committed to you. To your healing. To you being whole. To you being revived. To you knowing, understanding, & listening to the energy of your soul & having the utmost conviction that you DESERVE LIFE. We NEED you to be well, to be whole, to live as your most authentic self.

I want us to see how incredibly important & necessary we are in building up the next 7 generations. In creating the world WE want to live in & create a legacy we can all be proud of.

When mothers heal, generations before & after them heal too. 

So, I don’t just want to be a source of inspiration, even though I'm honored to inspire you. I want to give you real tools, real strategies, real support & help so you can actually GET THERE. To realize your potential in this life. I know it’s possible because I’m doing it and helping mamas everyday do it too.

Learn my process for how to develop an unwavering commitment to yourself as a mama.

So what can you expect moving forward?

Well, I’m still very much an imperfect human being, growing slowly & organically...but I’ve been working to build more systems and structures to help me show up more consistently for this community & bring real value. So in the spirit of imperfect action, here’s how I’ll be showing up for you:

Starting in August, every Tuesday I’ll be giving you practical advice & tools on how to heal, be whole, & live aligned to the energy of your soul via YouTube. You can subscribe now for that.

Also for all of august, I’ll be offering a 4-week deep dive on the topic of managing your emotions in difficult times. It will go alongside my YT videos and every Wednesday we’ll meet LIVE to practice what I teach in the videos. You can register here.  

Every Tuesday, I’ll be sending a newsletter like this with insights, usually related to my YT video topic but sometimes deeper thought pieces.  

Every year, I’ll be offering 4 cohorts of my program, aligned to the seasons (in the USA). Applications for cohort 5 in the Fall open Aug 3rd & close Sept 6th! We start Sept 19th! 

And for mamas who join my program, I’ll be offering 1:1 coaching + a new membership circle to help us deepen our commitment to ourselves on the daily 

I’m committed to my own daily practice & being the best, healthiest version of myself so I can continue to be a source of light, inspiration, & realness for all of you. I want to show you what’s possible when you continue to come back to yourself. I can only teach you what I’ve done myself so I am committed to always prioritizing myself, my needs, & my values. 

• I’ll also be creating more resources & practical tools for you all to download & refer to on your journey. More on that soon!

• And there’s more but I’ll save that for later! LOL!

So overall, I’m here for the long run & I want to build a fierce wild mama wolf pack where we can see each other, support each other through the highs & lows, collectively care about the well-being of ourselves & in turn, the next 7 generations, & consistently show up for ourselves & that deep work to heal, be whole, & live aligned to the energy of our souls, every damn day.

So again, thank you for being here! I’m grateful to all of you and especially grateful that I get to serve you in a bigger way moving forward.

I’m sending all of you so much love & goodness today,

Tiff